Something bad has come up. But wait - how did you learn about it? And who says it's bad? Have you analyzed the situation yourself and come to that conclusion? Or did someone tell you, and you have just been infected by their mood?
If something bad is to expect, first convince yourself that it really is imminent, and that it is bad. You need to listen exclusively to your own judgment there. (Or, if you feel your knowledge and experience doesn't allow for a sufficiently well-founded judgment, then ask someone whom you trust; but again, you are the judge of who that should be - it shouldn't be just the first person who happens to talk to you.) More often than not, things may be bad - but not actually for you, but for someone else, who wants to get you involved; or things may be bad - potentially, in a few days (or weeks), but not yet; or things may be on a bad track - but you can still take corrective measures. All this must be considered before you give in to some feeling.
Thinking about it is a good idea, even if you indeed come to the conclusion that something unfavorable is emerging. By getting it into the open daylight you gain control: it is the unknown, the unclear and uncertain which provokes doubt and speculation about the real extent of what's going on.
You have to practice this: constantly monitor yourself and check whether your opinions, hopes and worries really are your own - or someone else's. Take care.
If something bad is to expect, first convince yourself that it really is imminent, and that it is bad. You need to listen exclusively to your own judgment there. (Or, if you feel your knowledge and experience doesn't allow for a sufficiently well-founded judgment, then ask someone whom you trust; but again, you are the judge of who that should be - it shouldn't be just the first person who happens to talk to you.) More often than not, things may be bad - but not actually for you, but for someone else, who wants to get you involved; or things may be bad - potentially, in a few days (or weeks), but not yet; or things may be on a bad track - but you can still take corrective measures. All this must be considered before you give in to some feeling.
Thinking about it is a good idea, even if you indeed come to the conclusion that something unfavorable is emerging. By getting it into the open daylight you gain control: it is the unknown, the unclear and uncertain which provokes doubt and speculation about the real extent of what's going on.
You have to practice this: constantly monitor yourself and check whether your opinions, hopes and worries really are your own - or someone else's. Take care.
